5 Tips for Creating a Memorable Virtual Memorial

The summer of 2013 my dad passed away from his 8-year battle with cancer. If you have been through it, you know. Cancer is a club no one wants membership to, but once you are a card-carrying member you are no longer hesitant to tell others in the same boat how sorry you are, to offer a listening ear, and to just say “man – it’s so hard.”

About a week after the funeral for my dad, I remember a family friend emailed my sisters and I photos he had taken from the church and the grave site. My initial reaction was “oh my – I don’t want to look at this.” It was all still so fresh and the pain still overwhelming. I clicked out of the email and tried to move on with my day.

About 6 months later, I had this distant memory, “I think someone sent us photos of Dad’s funeral.” By now, I was really missing my dad and looking back on the day of the services is such a blur of emotion. I found the email and was somehow joyful to see them. Yes – of course I was sad, but it was also moving to see the beautiful send off we had for my dad. I was warmed to see the family and friends in the background, many of whom I didn’t even remember being there. There were only about 6 photos, but it brought me great comfort.

Now, seven years after the passing of my dad, there are other connections lost that I wish we had. Of course we are still close with my dad’s closest friends, but there were so many work colleagues and friends from other facets of his life that we have lost touch with. Some of them shared beautiful memories with us at the wake, but now I can barely remember the details. And I certainly don’t have a way to connect to these people. I would have cherished a way to document and relive the beautiful tributes given to my father, his work, and his life.

In a time where social distancing is required, the need to connect and remember people is even more prevalent. Virtual Memorials provide a way to celebrate those lost, while also providing you with a keepsake you will have forever. 

5 Tips for Creating a Memorable Virtual Memorial

1. Create a clear and concise program. Following a schedule will help maintain a natural flow and your guests will know what to expect as they embark on your loved one’s virtual memorial.
2. Choose meaningful songs and readings. Choose special songs and readings that honor and remind you of your loved one. Consider asking friends and family to partake in the virtual memorial by playing music, singing a song or reading a prayer or poem.
3. Incorporate photos. Creating a photo montage helps guests to celebrate a life well lived. A virtual memorial allows for space for a plethora of photos and video clips so don't shy away from a trip down memory lane. Consider asking your friends and family to submit photos ahead of time to be included in the memorial. 
4. Allow open time and space for sharing. Provide time at the end of the memorial for your friends and family to share stories, memories and support. Some guests may wish to share their memories and sympathy privately so consider adding extra time at the end for one-on-one visits. 
5. Rely on a trusted partner. Engage a trusted partner to facilitate your loved one's virtual memorial so you can be present during the moment and cherish the time with family and friends. Remember, you are not alone during your grieving. 

End of life company, Farewell Partners is honored to offer a solution that helps families capture the lasting memory of those dear to them. This article was written by one of their clients.